“Here’s the Thing: Self-Esteem and Weight”
Yes. And.
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“Here’s the Thing: Self-Esteem and Weight”
Yes. And.
ok so..i want to lose weight, the healthy way! i want to get a thigh gap..i know it can be done in a healthy way..but what is that? advice please?!
First of all, I want to start this off by saying that you are beautiful. This is not an attempt to pander or flatter you. You are beautiful. There is no amount of weight you could gain or lose that would change the fact that you. are. beautiful.
Diets work for about 5% of the population. 95% gain back all of the weight lost and 85% end up gaining more weight.
I’ve come to realize that, in my life, no amount of dieting is going to make me feel better about myself and my body… Because if my self-esteem is all tied up in an arbitrary number on a scale, then I’m just setting myself up for failure.
Is that to say you shouldn’t try a diet? Absolutely not. Your body, your rules. That being said, instead of a diet, here’s what I recommend:
1) Eat a variety of food, and pay attention to your bodies signals. It’s important to eat when you’re hungry. It’s also okay to indulge sometimes, too. Desiring food is not bad.
2) Move! Find the best way to exercise your body that is safe and enjoyable. This is the best way to stick to a movement regimen.
3) Realize that your body (and those of others) are beautiful. It’s incredible how freeing it can be to just stop judging people - especially yourself - by unrealistic standards and embracing the beauty of every body.
The basic idea is that loving your body has to come first. It can be really tough to re-train your brain in a world so fixated on one idea of beauty. I still have trouble with it sometimes, but for me the biggest change came from stopping myself from judging others. I find it way easier to be kind to myself when I’m kind about others’ bodies.
If you choose to lose weight, I wish you luck. Above all else, though, I wish you the strength to love your body no matter what.
I’ve seen so many Mother’s Day gif set. But I wanted to make a gifset dedicated to the girl who didn’t choose to become a mother, but had to. Nani. She was the best mother she could be to Lilo, and the best sister too.
She didn’t just lose her mother and father, with all the things she was doing wrong, she felt like she was losing her sister too.Nani, hardly gets recognition, and throughout the entire film she did everything she could and it seemed like the odds were against her. So, appreciation for Nani, as she’s one of the strongest, most realistic & realistic looking Disney character ever.
I quote this video ALL THE TIME.
Whenever someone says “the gays” in a derogatory manner or some shit I’ll stand up, turn to them and say in the most ominous voice I can “We are shape-shifters. We’re going to turn tampons into rocket ships” with a straight face and disappear into the crowd.
I do, as a matter of fact, want to end baseball.
This is what you sound like when you list the reasons homosexuality is “wrong”.
[A picture of two graphs from the Asexy Census of 2011 detailing romantic orientation and gender identity in the asexual community, among the 3000ish ace-spectrum people surveyed.]
Reblogging for reference, especially for the part that shows that non-heteroromantic aces represent more than 60% of the survey respondents.
These graphs are actually from the 2008 AVEN survey, not the 2011 census. The analysis from the 2011 survey can be found here. (That analysis found that heteroromantics make up 22% of the 2011 survey respondents.)
Reblogging for correct data. Thank you!
Hm. Interesting how it’s so spread out. I’d like to know the significance of the disproportionate amount of asexuals who are not cis and/or hetero. It’s also interesting that asexuals in this survey are overwhelmingly female.
The submitter writes:
a friend posted this on facebook and then argued with me that it wasn’t offensive and even though it was stereotyping people, it didn’t matter because people stereotype people with tattoos and no one’s mind will ever change about anything so what’s the point, why can’t she post it? and then i posted it on tumblr and some dude and some teenager tried to tell me there was no way it was sexist. am i crazy?
Well first of all, when the man gets to find his soul and the woman just gets to not be harmed, that’s a pretty big disparity.
But second - and more importantly - that is NOT a Cherokee Proverb. So someone - and my money is on a white person, because come on - has taken this picture of a Native couple, imposed their gender binarist/essentialist crap upon it, and thrust it into the world.